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Do you want to improve your coaching skills?

If so, I think you’re going to enjoy the free download we’ve just loaded to the Salad website. This segment is taken from a recent training session I did with a group who were making a major investment in professional coach training (I was invited to do a one-day NLP Coaching Masterclass by Barefoot Coaching, as part of their Chester University-accredited training course for coaches).

We all had a fantastic day, & when I listened to the recordings, I got really excited.

Why?

Because for the first time, I’ve managed to capture my entire coaching process on a digital recording.

The free download is a nine minute clip of me doing conversational belief change with one of the participants, using a few of the language patterns from my NLP Coaching Cards, a dash of ingenuity, & a boatload of humour.

This is one of six live demos of NLP Coaching in action that you can hear on the full recordings, which we’ve just launched at a special offer price (you’ll also get access to the coaching process I used to develop a reputation for results as an executive coach – this is the first time I’ve released this to the public).

But whether you buy the audios right away or not, please listen to the free download as our gift to you – I really want you to realise that NLP Coaching doesn’t have to be complicated or serious.

You can listen to your download here

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PS The Better Coaching Skills with NLP audios come with a five-year no-quibble money back guarantee. If you should decide at any time in the five years after you’ve bought & listened to them that you aren’t completely delighted with what you’ve learned, just return them for a full refund. The free bonuses will be yours to keep either way.
 

This Week's Tip...Secrets of NLP Coaching - Part  2 – Instant Rapport Through State

In Daniel Goleman’s book, “Social Intelligence”, he identifies the three qualities necessary for deep rapport as empathy (sensing what the other is feeling), attention (focusing your attention on the other person) & synchronisation (the physical entrainment often taught in NLP trainings). The combination of these three creates a “brain-to-brain link”, allowing us to powerfully influence one another. But how do you do this quickly & easily?

Put your full attention on the other person

They say that the most powerful currency for children is “attention”. In today’s hectic society, there is something incredibly powerful about having someone focus their full attention on you.

1)            Next time you are about to have a chat with someone, put your full attention on them. Notice how they respond.

For some people, listening is “something they do while waiting for their turn to speak”. But when you put your full attention on the other person, it’s a matter of really watching & listening to them. I tend to pay very close attention to their words, their tonality, their gestures & their eye movements (among other things). 

I once heard the amazing Frank Farrelly (creator of Provocative Therapy) say that when he works with someone, he pays the kind of attention you would pay if you were dismantling an unexploded bomb.

The neediness detector

As human beings, we all have built in “neediness detectors” – we can tell when someone wants us to do something. In general, the more needy someone is, the less we want to do what they want us to do.

So what does this have to do with rapport & coaching?

Well, many coaches have a deep need for their clients to change / achieve their goals / get certain results. While this is a fine desire, it sometimes gets confused with the coaches “ego needs” (eg. their desire to be perceived as a good coach). Paradoxically, this “need” for a positive result can stand in the way of getting a positive result.

The solution?

Accept yourself & the person you’re coaching exactly as you are.

Accept yourself & the person you’re coaching exactly as you are.

This may seem counter-intuitive. After all, if you accept people exactly as they are, then they won’t make the changes / achieve the goals etc etc, right? Right?

Nope!

Acceptance is one of the keys to powerful coaching relationships. You may not believe this, but I’ve actually been in Executive Coaching sessions where I did little more than accept the person as they were, & invite them to do the same.

They experienced powerful shifts & were able to start making progress, where previously they’d spent their energies battling with themselves. 

2)            Say to yourself “I accept myself exactly as I am” & notice any thoughts or sensations which emerge. Say “thank-you” to the thoughts & feelings, then repeat this process. A deep sense of peace will often emerge within a few rounds.

Once you’ve accepted yourself as you are, you can release any need for the other person to change in order to prove your worthiness / value / wonderfulness. After all, you’re already amazing, tremendous & inherently valuable, so you can relax!

3)            In your mind, accept your coaching subject as they are (Eg. by saying to yourself “I accept this person exactly as they are.”)

As you continue to focus your attention on the other person, you may be amazed as you discover an increasing warmth of connection between the two of you.

I’m not going to go into synchronising movements etc – so much has already been written on matching & mirroring that I don’t want to repeat it here. However, you may already be aware that matching & mirroring emerge naturally when you’re in rapport with someone, so you should notice plenty of it as you put these tips into practice.

This week’s tip is taken from our new “Better Coaching Skills with NLP” audio recordings. When you listen to these recordings, you’ll hear me reveal, explain & demonstrate my entire coaching structure, including 6 live coaching interventions & numerous covert & overt demonstrations. If you’re interested in NLP Coaching Language, you’ll find these recordings particularly valuable. To give you a taster of what you can expect, you can listen to a free 9-minute audio download of me doing rapid conversational belief change with one of the people on the training course (this was recorded at Barefoot Coaching’s Personal & Business Coaching Course, accredited by Chester University). Listen to your free download & find out how you can take advantage of our special launch offer & save money here

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Have a great week!

Best wishes
Jamie