"Eventually I Realised That to Become Truly Confident, You Need to Become Truly Competent"

Do you want to improve your coaching skills?

If so, I think you’re going to enjoy the free download we’ve just loaded to the Salad website. This segment is taken from a recent training session I did with a group who were making a major investment in professional coach training (I was invited to do a one-day NLP Coaching Masterclass by Barefoot Coaching, as part of their Chester University-accredited training course for coaches).

We all had a fantastic day, & when I listened to the recordings, I got really excited.

Why?

Because for the first time, I’ve managed to capture my entire coaching process on a digital recording.

The free download is a nine minute clip of me doing conversational belief change with one of the participants, using a few of the language patterns from my NLP Coaching Cards, a dash of ingenuity, & a boatload of humour.

This is one of six live demos of NLP Coaching in action that you can hear on the full recordings, which we’ve just launched at a special offer price (you’ll also get access to the coaching process I used to develop a reputation for results as an executive coach – this is the first time I’ve released this to the public).

But whether you buy the audios right away or not, please listen to the free download as our gift to you – I really want you to realise that NLP Coaching doesn’t have to be complicated or serious.

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This Week's Tip...Secrets of NLP Coaching - Part  3 – How to Get Leverage for Rapid Change

Back in my consulting days, one of the buzzwords that got bandied about was “Total Quality Management”. TQM was popularised by W. Edwards Deming as a way for reducing costs & increasing customer loyalty by treating the organisation as a system, then focusing that system on quality through continual improvement (as an aside, this process of continual improvement is called “Kaizen” by the Japanese, who embraced Deming’s ideas early on).

So how does all of this apply to coaching?

Well, one of Deming’s principles was this: when you get the first 15% of a process ‘right’, the remaining 85% is much more likely to be effective. For this reason, I put a big focus on preparation for a coaching session, and the first few minutes of the session (some of which we’ve been looking at for the last few weeks). 

Here are some of the things I pay attention to:

·        Acceptance (including self-acceptance & acceptance of the client, exactly as they are).

·        Setting a ‘coaching intention’ (this involves having an intention for the session to be for the highest good / healing / success of the client)

·        Establishing rapport – change happens at the unconscious level, & rapport is one of the signs that you’ve engaged a person’s unconscious mind.  

·        Belief / positive expectation – One of the coach’s jobs is to believe in their clients. Think about it – a lot of the time, a client’s main problem is that they either don’t believe in themselves, or that they don’t believe they can be/do/have what they want.

One of the things that the best NLP trainers & coaches communicate to the people they’re working with is this: “I believe in you”. Virtually everything I say & do when I’m working with clients is intended to communicate these sorts of messages:

·        “I believe in you”

·        “You can do the things you’ve been thinking you couldn’t”

·        “You’re capable of much more than you think you are”

·        “You’re amazing, magnificent & wonderful"

·        “You’re here for a reason – the world needs you" 

·        “You have value just for being you”

Sometimes you’ll hear me teasing clients I’m coaching, & often people ask me how that fits with what I’ve just told you, but it’s simple: When I tease clients, I’m sub-communicating something powerful – “I believe in you so much that I can actually poke fun at the thing you’ve been thinking was limiting you, because I know you’re capable of so much more.” 

(You can hear me doing a little bit of this with Jenni on the free download at xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx )

1)         Make a decision that you’re going to believe deeply in the potential & capability of the person you are coaching.

Of course, this doesn’t have to be in a formal coaching situation. The same thing applies whether you’re chatting with a friend or the CEO of a multi-national. If you’re having trouble with this idea, consider this:

The person you are coaching has the same kind of neuro-physiology as…

·        Mother Teresa

·        Joe Simpson & Simon Yates (the heroic climbers from “Touching the Void”)

·        Bill Gates

·        Tiger Woods

·        Anita Roddick

·        Picasso

·        John Grinder

·        Ghandi

·        Marianne Williamson

·        Donald Trump

·        Madonna

·        Lance Armstrong

·        Richard Bandler

·        Salvador Dali

·        Martin Luther King

·        Etc etc etc

Of course, the best way to sub-communicate that belief to the people you’re coaching is to model it for them, so…

2)         Decide to believe deeply in your own potential & capabilities, & general wonderfulness.

Deciding to believe in yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your clients, because it makes it even easier to believe in them.  

By the way, Deming’s research consistently showed that when organisations focus on quality, then quality tends to increase, & costs fall over time. But when organisations focus on cost, then costs tend to rise & quality declines over time. What you focus on increases! 

This week’s tip is taken from our new “Better Coaching Skills with NLP” audio recordings. When you listen to these recordings, you’ll hear me reveal, explain & demonstrate my entire coaching structure, including 6 live coaching interventions & numerous covert & overt demonstrations. If you’re interested in NLP Coaching Language, you’ll find these recordings particularly valuable. To give you a taster of what you can expect, you can listen to a free 9-minute audio download of me doing rapid conversational belief change with one of the people on the training course (this was recorded at Barefoot Coaching’s Personal & Business Coaching Course, accredited by Chester University). Listen to your free download & find out how you can take advantage of our special launch offer & save money here

Have a great week!

Best wishes
Jamie