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This Week's Tip...Secrets of NLP Coaching Part 4 - Your Most Powerful Coaching Tools...

“I keep six faithful serving-men,

Who serve me well and true:

Their names are What and Where and When

And How and Why and Who.”

- Rudyard Kipling

It has been said that NLP is 95% information gathering. But how do you know what to pay attention to? And how can you get people to give you useful information? This week, we’ll be exploring some of the most powerful tools there are for coaching, consulting, sales – in fact, for any situation where you’re helping someone to be more successful.

The first ‘NLP model’ ever created was a ‘map’ of how language could be used effectively in therapy. This map was created as a result of Bandler & Grinder modelling the questions used by Fritz Perls & Virginia Satir (the Eminem & Madonna of 20^th Century psychotherapy). But here’s the thing – they didn’t just model the questions they used: they modelled what they used them in response to. The result was The Meta-Model, a set of the most powerful coaching tools there is.

In fact, I’ve heard Richard Bandler say that if you gave a person just the Meta-Model, they would eventually discover the rest of NLP.

Good questions are powerful. Why? Because they initiate a number of processes at the unconscious level. For instance, ask yourself:

1)            What was it that first sparked your interest in NLP? [in coaching  / hypnosis / the mind etc]

As you ponder this simple but powerful question (adapted / adopted from Christina Hall, PhD) your unconscious mind is doing a number of powerful things:

·          Searching through time for reference experiences & bringing them more powerfully into conscious awareness

·          Comparing these experiences with certain criteria to help get clarification (eg. was this one the first? Did it truly spark my interest?)

·          Increasing the intensity of the interest that you feel (even if it only increases a little bit at first)

·          Organising & re-organising your perception of the information- after all, as you consider the answer to this question here today, you are creating a new perception / memory / experience – your experience of answering this question today.

·          Learning – when Christina Hall told us “As you answer these questions, you are learning” it reframed my idea of what learning is. I love the idea that just by setting out to answer this question, you’re learning something.

·          Better still, the unconscious mind continues to search answers to the question, even after a person gives an answer verbally.

So, here are a few more of my favourite questions. As the person answers these questions, watch & listen – they will give you all kinds of non-verbal clues about how their internal map of what they want, why they want it, and how they’ve been stopping themselves from getting it until now.

·          “What do you want?” – this is a great way to focus someone’s mind at the start of a coaching session, whether formal or informal. This question acknowledges the goal-seeking nature of human beings, & starts to align their system around what they want.

·          “How will you know you’ve got it?” This cool question gets a person to imagine themselves having what they want, then to figure out how they know - it’s very powerful.

Of course, I don’t put them on the spot by asking them directly. Instead, I’ll establish rapport then say something like this:

“One of the things I like to find out from my clients is ‘What do you want?’ and ‘How will you know you’ve got what you want?’ so at some point in the session I’ll ask them. And typically I’ll get three kinds of answer: With some people, when I ask ’What do you want?’, they’ll tell me what they want, while with others, they tell me what they don’t want. But the third group, when I ask ’What do you want?’ they say they don’t know. At which point, I ask them ‘Would you like to know what you want?’ & they say yes, & I say good, so that’s the first thing you want, isn’t it, & they usually laugh & relax a bit more. So anyway, as you sit here listening to me, what is it that you want?”

As you can see, by the time I actually ask the person directly, I’ve already asked them the question three times while telling them the story, as well as telling them it’s OK not to know consciously yet continue to engage in the process.

Next week, we’ll look more deeply at how you can use questions powerfully to help people make changes.

You can hear me demonstrating the Meta-Model, & other powerful NLP coaching questions in live demos on our new “Better Coaching Skills with NLP” audio recordings. When you listen to these recordings, you’ll hear me reveal, explain & demonstrate my entire coaching structure, including 6 live coaching interventions & numerous covert & overt demonstrations. If you’re interested in NLP Coaching Language, you’ll find these recordings particularly valuable. To give you a taster of what you can expect, you can listen to a free 9-minute audio download of me doing rapid conversational belief change with one of the people on the training course (this was recorded at Barefoot Coaching’s Personal & Business Coaching Course, accredited by Chester University). Listen to your free download & find out how you can take advantage of our special launch offer & save money here

Have a great week!

Best wishes
Jamie