"Eventually I Realised That to Become Truly Confident, You Need to Become Truly Competent"

Do you want to improve your coaching skills?

If so, I think you’re going to enjoy the free download we’ve just loaded to the Salad website. This segment is taken from a recent training session I did with a group who were making a major investment in professional coach training (I was invited to do a one-day NLP Coaching Masterclass by Barefoot Coaching, as part of their Chester University-accredited training course for coaches).

We all had a fantastic day, & when I listened to the recordings, I got really excited.

Why?

Because for the first time, I’ve managed to capture my entire coaching process on a digital recording.

The free download is a nine minute clip of me doing conversational belief change with one of the participants, using a few of the language patterns from my NLP Coaching Cards, a dash of ingenuity, & a boatload of humour.

This is one of six live demos of NLP Coaching in action that you can hear on the full recordings, which we’ve just launched at a special offer price (you’ll also get access to the coaching process I used to develop a reputation for results as an executive coach – this is the first time I’ve released this to the public).

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This Week's Tip...Secrets of NLP Coaching - Part 5 - The Information-Gathering Frame

Last week, we started exploring the idea that NLP is 95% information gathering, & that questions are one of your most powerful coaching tools. This week, we’re going to look at some questions you can ask yourself to create a uniquely powerful coaching frame.

While it’s important to have great questions to ask your clients, there are a number of questions I ask myself when I’m working with a client that are equally powerful in helping create a strong coaching frame. Here are some of them:

·          “What must be true of them for them to say / do / believe that?”

·          “How are they doing that?”

·          “How does their ‘problem’ work? What are the steps they are taking?”

·          “What are they trying to accomplish? What’s the purpose of this? How does this make sense?”

·          “What’s important in all of this?”

These questions acknowledge some of the powerful presuppositions of NLP:

·          All behaviour has a positive intention (ie. it is purposeful)

·          People aren’t broken, so you don’t need to fix them

·          The map is not the territory.

All behaviour has a positive intention (ie. it is purposeful)

The human nervous system is goal-seeking. Even the most bizarre behaviours make sense when you understand what goal is being sought. While these goals are often held out of conscious awareness, the unconscious mind knows what the goal is.

People aren’t broken, so you don’t need to fix them

People work perfectly – their ‘problems’ are actually skills, and their ‘issues’ are actually accomplishments. People are actually far more robust than they are often given credit for.

The map is not the territory.

Remember, people don’t respond directly to ‘reality’, but rather to the ‘maps’ or ‘models’ of reality that they have created, and that exist in their nervous systems.

When someone is experiencing a problem or challenge, it is useful to consider the problem or challenge as a limitation in their map of the world, rather than in the world itself. By helping someone update their map of the world, their problems, issues and limitations can disappear. By the same token, a person with great talents and abilities has a rich map of the world. We can all enrich our maps and models and live happier, more vibrant, fulfilling lives.

When someone is sitting in front of me for coaching, they often come with some problem they’ve tried to solve in a bunch of different ways already, & it hasn’t worked. I assume that the person works perfectly, that there’s a positive intention behind what’s going on for them, & that they are doing it in a structured way – this gives me three big advantages:

a)       A different perspective & attitude from everyone else who’s tried to help them “solve this problem”.

b)       Rapport with their unconscious mind (remember, their unconscious almost certainly perceives the “problem” as a solution that’s getting a positive result.)

c)       The opportunity to discover the structure of what they’ve been perceiving as a limitation – to understand how they “do” their problem.

So, in relation to someone you may be coaching, or someone you know who hasn’t been able to solve some problem yet, ask yourself:

            1) “What is the positive intention behind this behaviour / belief / problem or challenge? What purpose is it serving?”

When you assume that there’s a positive intention, this instantly helps build rapport with their unconscious mind (after all, they’ve probably been fighting their unconscious).

2)  “How does their ‘problem’ work? What are the steps they are taking?”

You can assume that people do things in a systematic, patterned way. Then it’s just a matter of finding out what the patterns are!  

Next week, we’ll start looking at questions you can use to find out the answers to these questions from the other person, but start by loading the questions into your own mind. They will give you new insights into the people around you.

You can hear me demonstrating the Meta-Model, & other powerful NLP coaching questions in live demos on our new “Better Coaching Skills with NLP” audio recordings. When you listen to these recordings, you’ll hear me reveal, explain & demonstrate my entire coaching structure, including 6 live coaching interventions & numerous covert & overt demonstrations. If you’re interested in NLP Coaching Language, you’ll find these recordings particularly valuable. To give you a taster of what you can expect, you can listen to a free 9-minute audio download of me doing rapid conversational belief change with one of the people on the training course (this was recorded at Barefoot Coaching’s Personal & Business Coaching Course, accredited by Chester University). Listen to your free download & find out how you can take advantage of our special launch offer & save money here

Have a great week!

Best wishes
Jamie