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If so, I think you’re going to enjoy the free download we’ve just loaded to the Salad website. This segment is taken from a recent training session I did with a group who were making a major investment in professional coach training (I was invited to do a one-day NLP Coaching Masterclass by Barefoot Coaching, as part of their Chester University-accredited training course for coaches).

We all had a fantastic day, & when I listened to the recordings, I got really excited.

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Because for the first time, I’ve managed to capture my entire coaching process on a digital recording.

The free download is a nine minute clip of me doing conversational belief change with one of the participants, using a few of the language patterns from my NLP Coaching Cards, a dash of ingenuity, & a boatload of humour.

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This Week's Tip...Secrets of NLP Coaching - Part 6 - How To Ask Questions with Purpose...

Last week we explored questions you can ask yourself for setting a strong frame for coaching. This week, we’ll look at some powerful questions you can use with others that won’t just give you high-quality information – they’ll get your client to start opening up new possibilities & moving in new directions.

I’m currently attending a language course with the amazing Christina Hall PhD (Chris is one of the most highly skilled people in the NLP world when it comes to language, & we’re exploring it in depth.)

Early on in the course, she was telling us about the time she spent with Richard Bandler in the early days of NLP, developing some of the material that was to become its “core syllabus”. One of the things he told her about was the importance of  questions. “Remember”, he said, “your questions must be defined by purpose.”

Your questions must be defined by purpose

Every question will guide a person’s attention in a certain direction. You see, the unconscious mind is affected by the ‘presuppositions’ in the questions you ask (you can think of presuppositions as “what must be accepted as true for the sentence to make sense”). Here are some examples:

So far, so good. Here’s where the fun starts.

1)            Identify something in your life that you’ve been perceiving as a problem until now. Then ask yourself “How have I perceived this as a problem until now?”

This question presupposes a number of things, including…

·          There’s more than one way of perceiving what you had been calling a problem

·          That perceiving it as a problem was just that – a perception!

In addition, it does some cool things with time. First of all, the word “perceived” puts the perception into the past, then the “until now” implies that things have changed.

Remember, all change takes place at the unconscious level, & the unconscious mind processes at the level of presupposition. Just by understanding the sentence, the presuppositions are accepted!

This is powerful. It means that just by asking questions, you’re directing a person’s attention, & inviting them to reorganise their experience.

You can even use smaller elements of this to great effect. For instance, if a client states a problem, you can append words & phrases to the end of their sentence, with powerful results. For instance: 

Client:                    I haven’t made any progress.

Coach:                   Until now…

Client:                    It’s so difficult to make changes.

Coach:                   But not for us!

Client:                    I don’t seem to be able to do this.

Coach:                   Yet…you can become curious about how soon you’ll notice your increasing skills.

The “until now”, “but not for us” and the “yet” will cause the person to reprocess the meaning of what they’ve said in different ways (if you don’t believe me, state a limitation or problem, then get a friend to say “Until now” or “yet” afterwards & notice what happens).

2)            Notice what happens when you turn your attention to what you had described as a problem in exercise 1. How have you already begun to perceive this differently now?

Energy flows where attention goes. Just by asking yourself these questions, you will have created new cortical pathways in your mind. But have you already realised just how much you have been learning here today?

3)            Consider the questions in exercise 2 and in the paragraph above. What do they presuppose? What are some of the ways that you’ve already begun to become aware of that you can apply these in your own life?

Questions change your perceptions, & the perceptions of the people you communicate with. And when your perceptions change, your reality changes. That’s why questions are one of your most powerful coaching tools.

You can listen to me using these kinds of questions & demonstrating the Meta-Model, & other powerful NLP coaching questions in live demos on our new “Better Coaching Skills with NLP” audio recordings. When you listen to these recordings, you’ll hear me reveal, explain & demonstrate my entire coaching structure, including 6 live coaching interventions & numerous covert & overt demonstrations. If you’re interested in NLP Coaching Language, you’ll find these recordings particularly valuable. To give you a taster of what you can expect, you can listen to a free 9-minute audio download of me doing rapid conversational belief change with one of the people on the training course (this was recorded at Barefoot Coaching’s Personal & Business Coaching Course, accredited by Chester University). Listen to your free download & find out how you can take advantage of our special launch offer & save money here

Have a great week!

Best wishes
Jamie