Tip# 211 -
Secrets of NLP Coaching -
Part 7 – The Magic Minute and How You Can Use It - 12th July, 2007
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This Week's Tip...Secrets
of NLP Coaching - Part 7 – The Magic Minute and How You
Can Use It
Did you
know that people will tell you everything you need to know in order to
help them in the very first minute, as long as you can see, hear &
utilise their unconscious messages? This week, we’ll explore how you can tune in
to this ‘magic minute’ & use what you discover to make a powerful impact.
The Magic Minute
A few weeks ago, I was coaching
someone who had been given the job of managing an important business project. I
started in my usual way by asking her “What do you want?” She raised her eyes to
the heavens & said “I don’t know where to start”, then began to think about what
she wanted.
At a
conscious mind level, she was telling me “I don’t know where to start in
answering your question”, but at an unconscious level, she was telling me
exactly what he rproblem with the project had been: she’d been given a large &
complex project to manage, with a number of critical component, & she literally
didn’t know where to start.
The first
words out of her mouth, words which had been presented as a comment about the
coaching process we were engaged in, were a statement of exactly what the
“problem” had been. She had told me what was going on with the first six
words out of her mouth.
Watch & listen
“People will tell you everything
you need to know in order to help them in the first minute.” This is what I was
told when I first started learning NLP, & the more I believe it, the truer it
gets.
I assume
that a person’s unconscious mind is doing everything it possibly can to give me
clues so that I can help them. These clues come in various forms, so here are a
few tips for identifying them.
Pay attention to asides
Like the example above, the
unconscious mind often communicates important information in “asides” &
“throwaway comments”. Pay attention to these comments, & open to the possibility
that they are communications from the unconscious mind.
Tune in to the first thing out
of their mouth
My co-trainer, Peter Freeth, has
a specialty working with people who have fear of public speaking. One of his
clients asked him to speak at as conference, & Peter immediately replied “Yes”.
The client said “I wish I could accept an invitation to speak in public as
easily as you just did.” It turned out that the man had been trying to conquer
his “fear of public speaking” for 25 years, but to no avail. By paying attention
to the sentence above, Peter determined that he didn’t even have a fear of
public speaking – his fear was of something else. In less than 25 minutes, Peter
helped him become someone who enjoyed public speaking & the rest is history!
(See if you can figure out how Peter determined this from the statement above).
Take people literally
I was doing a demo at
the Cambridge NLP group last night, & I asked the man I was working with
“How have you managed to perceive that as a problem until now?”
(regarding a challenge he was facing). He said “Because it’s so big…”
The human
mind & body have developed for the world of things & experience – words are a
relatively new arrival. I took him literally – his internal representation of
the particular challenge he was facing was “Humongous! It fills the room!” (he
leaned his head back & looked up to the ceiling as he talked about it). I asked
him “What happens when you shrink it down to a manageable size?”
Instantly,
he started to relax.
1) In the days &
weeks ahead, pay particular attention to the first things out of a person’s
mouth. You may be amazed at what you discover!”
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Best wishes
Jamie
Jamie Smart
director of training
jamie.smart@saladltd.co.uk
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