Last week
we explored how to stop robbing our lives of joy. This week, I’m really
happy to share something with you from one of the brightest, most exciting
new voices I’ve come across in years. In this article, you’re going to
discover some of the secrets to living a happy, self-actualised fulfilling
life.
A couple
of years ago, a friend of mine (Steve P, one of the world’s premier
hypnotists) recommended I check out a friend of his with the unusual name of
Johnny Soporno. It took me nearly two years to get around to it, but when I
did, I was blown away. I watched 6 hours of free videos that Johnny had
generously made available for download, & was knocked out by the quality of
the thinking & mindset he shared. I sent Johnny an email saying how much I
appreciated him & what he was doing, & invited him to help himself to
anything he wanted from the Salad shop (that’s how much I valued what I’d
learned).
When Steve
P invited me to co-train with him, Johnny & Zan Perrion in Berlin last
month, I jumped at the chance, & made some great new friends in the process.
Johnny Soporno is one of the happiest, most authentic & generous people I’ve
ever met, so I wanted to introduce him & his ideas to the Salad community.
He demonstrates many values that I hold dear, including acceptance,
non-judgemental awareness, honesty & love (Johnny is one of the most happily
“married” people I know).
But I need
to give you a warning – Johnny’s ideas are not for everyone. He seems to
have cracked the code of why so many people have problems with their
relationships & with life in general, but his ideas are the epitome of the
term “paradigm-shift”.
So without
further ado, here’s Johnny…
How to Win the
“Inner Game” of Life
by Johnny Soporno
“Inner Game” is simply a convenient euphemism for having a "Satisfied
Sense-of-Self".
The more richly developed you are AS A PERSON, the less crafty and
manipulative you need to be, and the less you need to justify that you
DESERVE the ‘lifestyle’ you have chosen.
Once you wrap your mind around this, everything falls into place: Inner Game
isn't something you get taught, it isn't something you study - it's
something you must EARN!
The irony is, ONLY YOU can award it to yourself.
This Self-Confidence is like Freedom: You must EARN it - it can't be bought,
borrowed, or stolen, nor can it be given away. (When Freedom is GIVEN to
you, that's ACTUALLY abandonment. Think about that!)
By earning your OWN respect, and satisfying yourself that you are
becoming more fully-realized with each new experience you have, you begin
TRULY to like yourself.
We're all looking to live a wealthy life, but there is nothing innately
positive about the 'worthless wealthy / playboy’ stereotype. Oh, it LOOKS
like fun, but it's empty and shallow...
The paradigm I recommend, alternatively, is that of the "Worthy Person",
which I elaborate on further now:
To become a 'Worthy Person' you must develop yourself as a Renaissance Man
or Woman; you should endeavour to gain a broad-base of knowledge in areas
you believe people who'd interest you will be versed. This will help you to
remain interesting to them also; as being interesting is INFINITELY
more attractive than being 'impressive'.
As a Worthy Person, you should be comfortable and confident enough to carry
on conversations with anyone on subjects you have historically known nothing
about, by candidly and sincerely encouraging them to share THEIR insights
with you.
NEVER FORGET: Everyone's favourite subject is themselves, and NOTHING makes
you more attractive to another person than being INTERESTED in what they
have to say.
This works for men and women alike - but women are far more impressed when
they receive this attention from men (since most men are usually too
arrogant to concede they might not know everything... Schmucks.)
For men - A Worthy Man is never ashamed of NOT KNOWING, because A) no
one can know everything, and B) women will be DELIGHTED that their knowing
something you don't isn't intimidating to you - and they will be flattered
that you're man-enough to let them teach something to you.
"Know Thyself" said The Oracle, and that was profound advice - FOR
SELF-DECEPTION IS THE ROOT OF
ALL
EVIL.
Introspectively interrogate yourself to discover WHO YOU
ARE as you develop - to
ensure you haven't lost sight of yourself.
Once you KNOW who you are, you'll know what you'll do.
IF YOU ONLY DO THE THINGS WHICH MAKE SENSE TO YOU, in which you find
yourself BOTH cerebrally and emotionally settled, and where your conscience
is unperturbed, YOU'LL BE ACTING WITH 'REASONED CONFIDENCE'.
This is the rational way of leading your life - by following these internal
guidlelines, you'll NEVER have reason for regret, and no justification for
embarrassment, EVEN if things don't work out immediately! (In such cases,
dispassionately step back from the experience, return to the plan to see
whether the problem was situational or persistent, and modify as-necessary
before trying again.)
By proceeding ONLY with Reasoned Confidence, the only guilt you need EVER
feel is the guilt of letting yourself down; the ONLY embarrassment, the
embarrassment of making the same mistakes over again; the ONLY regret, the
regret of not having come to this epiphany earlier.
Promise yourself regularly, "I will never do anything I wouldn't do" - and
keep that promise faithfully - your internal consistency and congruency
depends on it. Your ethical system MUST NOT have a 'margin-release
key' - that is the road to conscious hypocrisy (See "Self-Deception" above)
and is nothing less than personal treason. This doesn’t mean one can’t
attempt new things, by any means – but it does mean that if you KNOW
your conscience would object, DON’T ATTEMPT TO OVERRIDE IT!
Explore your world - expand your horizons, develop new friendships with
people of high integrity and ethics, and remain true to yourself and your
word. Your relationships and your reputation are your strongest weapons in
the battle against psychological misery and emotional defeat - make certain
they are solid, just, and dependable as best you can.
As you progress, you will become comfortable that ANY PERSON (man or woman)
with whom you interact will feel and be better-off for knowing you [even if
it's simply because you proved to them that GOOD Men & Women still exist,
and find THEM interesting] and that they will feel better about themselves
because they've spent time with you.
What could be a more-attractive attribute to have?
Most of all, YOU MUST BECOME SELF-ACTUALIZED - in other words, you need to
find your comfort with yourself based on your confidently and successfully
following your own path, and NOT narcissistically through the approval of
others.
Permitting yourself to be held-back from progressing because you fear the
disapproval of people you don't admire is MADNESS!
Lead your own life, and conscientiously ensure you make all your decisions
with Reasoned Confidence, and when you are met with disapproving or taunting
jibes from 'the peanut gallery' just take note of it -
then DO AS YOU WILL, and watch as your detractors become your admirers.
There's no arguing with success.
Good luck to you all,
I hope you find value in this.
Johnny Soporno
It’s Jamie here again - just so you know, I’ve managed to persuade Johnny to
come to London to do a 3-day event for men who want to transform their
love-lives. It’s this Friday, Saturday & Sunday (August 22-24), & comes with
a 100% money-back guarantee, so if you want to make a big change to your
success with women, read on!
Exclusive
ONE-OFF Johnny Soporno (Worthy Playboy)UK Workshop
You may
already be aware that Johnny Soporno is one of the world's most respected
authorities, not only on attracting women & creating a “playboy lifestyle”,
but doing it with love & authenticity. He
has been featured on the Double Your Dating interview series as well as
conducting countless seminars of his own. More than 200,000 people have
watched Johnny's legendary “Seductive Reasoning” videos.
This
weekend (August 22-24) he is running an exclusive, one-off, up close &
personal UK workshop
to help a group of men take their “game” to a whole new level. He will be
joined by Jamie Smart, one of the world's leading authorities on NLP &
Hypnosis, & the only mainstream NLP Trainer working openly in this area,
helping men develop authentic inner game.
What
happens when you imagine being able to...
* Attract
the women you really desire, whether for casual encounters or loving
relationships that stand the test of time.
* Feel a
real sense of abundance & choice with women. The word is “PLENTY”.
* Be
deeply authentic, the real you; not having to rely on tricks, routines &
manipulation.
* Have the
kind of empowering beliefs & high self-esteem of the genuinely attractive
man, to be the kind of man who attracts women automatically.
* Live in
your own reality, & be a happier, more fulfilled person (you may be
wondering if a “playboy workshop” can really offer this, but in fact, this
is one of the counterintuitive key to the extraordinary levels of success
you're going to be enjoying!)
If that
sounds good, just check-in & ask yourself...
* Could
your game benefit from personal time with one of the top guys in the
community?
* Would
you like to take you game to the next level learning from someone who is
doing it already, living the ultimate “Playboy Lifestyle”?
* Are you
ready to learn how you can actually be yourself with women, have the
interaction go pretty much wherever you want it to, & have the kinds of
experiences with women you desire, that most men (including most guys in the
community) only dream of?
There are
only 15 places available on this one-of-a-kind programme, & the first 3 were
taken by word of mouth before we even finished writing this post, so if you
want to find out if one of the remaining 12 places is for you, send us a
message and we will give you more details.
By the
way, Johnny & Jamie are two of the only guys working in this field who give
a 100% money-back guarantee on their workshops. After 30 days, if you aren't
completely delighted & satisfied with what you've learned & how it's
transformed your results with women, you'll be entitled to a full refund, no
quibbles.
To see
more of Johnny and videos from some of his recent talks follow the links
below:
Johnny
Soporno
http://johnnysoporno.com/
Jamie Smart
http://www.saladltd.co.uk/authentic-attraction-with-nlp.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2nAqRjEgd0
Details
Dates
Fri 22nd / Sat 23rd /
Sun 24th August
2008– Central
London location
to be confirmed
9:30am
– 20:00pm
The
seminar is for 15 people and there are 12 places remaining
Pricing is
£1,200 for the three days
This
seminar weekend will CHANGE YOUR
LIFE.
This
seminar will be up close and personal. A once in a lifetime opportunity to
go deep into your existence and create the reality you want now.
Get in
touch for more details
Call John
Wilkes on 07891 544 423
Call Rich Enion on 07855 521 463
Or email rich@epicaevents.com
Have a
great week.
Best
wishes
Your friend
Jamie
Jamie Smart
director of training
jamie.smart@saladltd.co.uk
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