This Week's Tip...
Why You Can Never Get Enough of Second Best

“You can never get enough of second best (because it’s so unsatisfying).”
Mandy Evans, Psychotherapist

Last week we looked at the power of time-language to make rapid changes to beliefs. This week we're going to look at a principle which applies to every area of life, but with a specific focus on men's love-lives (but guess what – the same principles apply to women too!)

You can have the love-life you desire. In fact, some people would say that the very fact that you desire it is your neurology’s way of letting you know you can have it. The question is “What do you want?”

Believe it or not, most people don’t go for what they want – they go for what they think they can get. But here’s the thing – you’re capable of more than you think you are, because you are more than you think you are. Your desires are your guide to what’s possible for you.

Just take a moment to let that sink in. You’re capable of more than you think you are, because you are more than you think you are. Your desires are your guide to what’s possible for you.

Now, as you read those statements, you may be hearing all kinds of objections & concerns inside your head, things like:

·         That may be true for other people, but not for me

·         That probably is true, but I’m too lazy / stupid / ~
             broken etc

·         I’m not motivated enough to get what I want

·         Etc etc etc

Those are just limiting beliefs. They are not who you are. Your genuine desires come from The Natural Self, the “you” who you really are.

Michael Neill (bestselling author & probably the world’s foremost happy success coach) says that there are only two questions you really need to answer in terms of getting what you want:

 1.            What do you want?
 
 2.            What stops you? 

While it really is as simple as that, there are a number of factors that can make it challenging to get “clean” answers to the “What do you want” question. Here are some of the “other factors” that I’m aware of::
 

·         Thinking it’s not OK to want what we want

·         Thinking it’s not possible to get what we want

·         The “I don’t know what I want” story

·         Thinking we need to get what we want in order to be happy

·         Thinking something bad will happen if we get what we want

·         Thinking we’ll become something bad if we get what we
   want

·         Thinking we don’t deserve what we want

·         Thinking others won’t approve if we get what we want

 

To hear me guide you through some questions to help you get clear on the love-life you desire, check out the free videos at www.getrealattraction.com/salad – I'm sharing some of my most powerful information there.

Once you're clear on what you want, it's important to build a deep sense of motivation & get clear on how that connects to what you want & your life in general..

Having clarified what it is that you really, really want, then its about finding out what's been stopping you & clearing away the obstacles.

While these obstacles can fall into a number of categories, the biggest one when it comes to attracting women is typically “limiting beliefs”. There are several different types of limiting belief when it comes to attraction & relationships:

a)         Limiting beliefs about women, men, & the world in
            general.

b)         Limiting beliefs about yourself, what you deserve, &
            what's possible. 

The first group are relatively easy to sort out – spend some time with men who are skilled at attracting women, or reading the posts on a seduction forum, & you may discover that what you've been considering as “reality” is very different than you thought when it comes to attracting women..

The second group can be trickier. There are a number of tools for helping to identify & shift self-limiting beliefs. They include:

• Hypnosis / Self-hypnosis
• NLP Techniques
• Conversational Belief-Change using Sleight of Mouth

If you want to change your limiting beliefs, click here to check out The Conversational Belief-Change Accelerator Programme, the fastest way there is to learn Sleight of Mouth & the techniques of rapid belief-change.

I've just launched a new set of free videos at www.getrealattraction.com/salad to help men create the love-life you desire. While this is aimed at single men, most of the principles apply to men in relationships too (in fact, all my past relationships would have been very different if I'd known then what I know now.)

I'd love your feedback on the videos, so once you've watched them, go to the blog & send me your comments. That way I can help you achieve the love-life you desire!!

Have a great week!

To your success!

 
Your friend

 

Jamie

Jamie Smart

Jamie Smart
CEO
jamie.smart@saladltd.co.uk

 

jamie.smart@saladltd.co.uk
 

Introducing a New 90 Day Program by
Zan Perrion

"Jamie here. You may already be aware that I've been spending a lot of time with Zan Perrion, described by the New York Times as "the world's greatest seducer". Zan deeply embraces the principles of honesty, authenticity & love that I share, so I'm delighted to announce that Zan's offering a new 90-day coaching programme, & I'm going to be joining him in Brussels for the kick-off in November. Details below..."

A note from Zan:
"If any of you are interested, I am giving a free 90 minute Teleseminar later this week.

It is free because I figure it is the best way to introduce my new program. The program is called "The Ars Amorata: A 90 Day Transformation", and I am really stoked that this program is finally coming to life! I have been wanting to create a program like this for a long time.

I figured that, rather than write pages and pages of description, it will be easier to just do a free information teleseminar that describes the program in detail. And of course, I will also give a small sample of the concepts I am planning to teach during the actual 90 day program. So it should be a good and informative call.

We have a lot of sign-ups for the free call already - just from my newsletter list and website. So we've added more lines to each scheduled call, but even so, space might be limited.

Anyway, here is the sales page with all the dreary marketing jargon and hype:  http://www.zanperrion.com/infosession.php "

- Zan Perrion

About Zan Perrion:
Zan Perrion is widely regarded as one of the preeminent authorities on dating and seduction in the world today. Author Neil Strauss devoted an entire chapter to him in his New York Times bestseller The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, calling Zan "...the undisputed heavyweight of the genre... in four years, he never once asked for advice, he only gave it...". Seattle's Komo TV has called him "The World's Greatest Seducer". And in 2007, Zan played himself in the movie Let the Game Begin, starring Adam Rodriguez (of CSI: Miami), Thomas Ian Nicholas (of American Pie), Stephen Baldwin, Michael Madsen, and Natasha Henstridge.

Zan has also been a guest on many radio and television programs, has been featured in numerous newspaper and magazine articles, including Macleans, and is a regular contributor to both Bobbi and UMM magazines.

In addition, Zan is frequently invited to give lectures at colleges and universities around the world, including UC Berkeley, McGill University, and Queen's University, among others.