Last
week we explored an approach for beating procrastination. This week, we're
going to play with a “secret” I got let into a couple of years before I went
into business. I decided to embrace this secret, & credit it with a lot of
my business success. The strangest thing is, it's a secret which most women
intuitively know, & most men don't.
Many
years ago, someone revealed to me some strange statistics about business.
They said that 95% of new businesses fail within the first two years. Then
they told me something that shocked me: they said that businesses started by
women were far more likely to succeed than business started by men, for two
reasons:
Reason 1
Men are far
more likely to put their money into “status builders”, buying expensive
stationery, office furniture or a snazzy website, while women tended to put
their money into creating value for their employees & their clients.
Reason 2
Women are
far more willing than men to ask for help.
When I
started Salad in 2003, I decided to do my best to ensure I didn't fall into
either of these man-traps. And I didn't. Except when I did.
The
funny thing is, I don't have any problem asking for help when I don't know
what I'm doing. The time I don't ask for help is in areas where I know what
I'm doing. For instance...
I'm
currently working on some new learning plans for our re-launch of
myNLPresources.com. I know how to create learning plans, but can I get
started? No way. I'd been not-getting-started on this for about two months
before I realised that I've fallen into one of my mental blind-spots – I
like to create this sort of thing with someone else.
I'm at
my best when I'm presenting or explaining things to people. I can come up
with almost anything if I've got someone to work through it with. When I
worked as a project manager, I could come up with complex project plans as
long as there was someone else in the room with me to bounce it off. They
didn't even need to know anything about the project.
But
sometimes I don't remember that!
Anyway, I've booked some time with Nikki next week to help me evolve the
learning plans. So...
-
Identify something you’ve been wanting to do, create or accomplish, but
have been putting off making a start (or have paused).
-
Ask yourself “Who are some of the people I know who might be able to
help me with this in some way?”
Write
down your answers on a sheet of paper. “Help me” is a very broad category.
It could be as non-specific as someone to bounce ideas off, or as specific
as someone who can help you manage your time more effectively.
-
Circle one of the names on the list, then get in touch with them & ask
for help.
The
funny thing is, when you ask someone for help, it often makes them feel
good. You may be surprised at the positive responses you get to this simple
request.
I
need your help
By the
way, I need your help. I've recently launched my NLP Monthly Mastery series
(a series of interviews with some of the world's finest NLP trainers). I
really want to ensure it's a big success because I'm passionate about
everyone in the Salad community developing the kind of depth of
understanding of NLP that builds real skill. So...
Who do
you know who wants to really develop their NLP abilities?
You
can do them a huge favour by getting them a deck of NLP Belief-Busting cards
& a free trial subscription to the NLP Monthly Mastery Series
here
When
you buy a deck of the NLP Belief-Busting cards for only £15.97, you get your
first month of the NLP Monthly Mastery Series for FREE. We're even paying
the postage. The first interview is with NLP legend, Judy Delozier. Here's
what one member of the Salad community said about it:
“Jamie, AWESOME first interview with Judy Delozier. Inspiring, authentic,
insightful into the birth of NLP, honest about it's future, packed full of
important distinctions. This is essential stuff and if the rest are like
this, it's gonna be a treat mate! Many thanks.” - Karl Walkinshaw
You
can get the NLP Belief-buster cards & your free trial subscription to the
NLP Monthly Mastery Series
here
Have a great weekk
To your success!
Your friend
Jamie
Jamie Smart
Jamie Smart
CEO
jamie.smart@saladltd.co.uk
jamie.smart@saladltd.co.uk
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