Life-Changing Experiment
“Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.”
-Albert Einstein
Part
One: The Model
One
of my favorite exploratory models in NLP is Robert Dilts' "Neuro-logical
Levels", first laid out in his book "Changing Belief Systems with NLP".
Dilts identifies six different levels of experience corresponding to six
different levels of neurological 'circuitry'.
Before reading about the levels, choose a behavior (playing a sport,
eating, writing coaching tips) or a life area (money, s^ex,
relationships) to explore...
1.
Environment
This
level corresponds to the peripheral nervous system, and defines the
external context for any behavior or event. In simpler terms, it asks
the question "where does (whatever you're exploring) take place?"
2.
Behavior
This
is the level of action, which asks the question "what specifically do
you do when you're engaged in (whatever you're exploring)?" It
corresponds to the body's motor systems through which you take your
conscious actions.
3.
Capabilities
Every
behavior we engage in in our lives is a subset of a l^arger area – the
area of our capabilities and skills. When I write, I am (hopefully)
utilizing the skills of creativity, self-reflection, seeing the world
from multiple perspectives, critical thinking, and typing. The question
is "How do you do (whatever you're exploring)? What capabilities and
skills do you tap into when you engage in the area of your life you have
chosen to explore?" Physically, this level corresponds to your body's
cortical systems (semi-conscious actions).
4.
Beliefs and Values
Having explored the where, what, and how of your chosen context, the
next question to ask is ‘why’? Asking yourself why (whatever you're
exploring) is important will assist you in identifying your values;
asking yourself 'what's true about (whatever you're exploring)?' will
begin to bring out your beliefs.
This
level corresponds to our autonomic nervous system - our unconscious
responses to the world around us.
5.
Identity
I
work a great deal with comedians, who in turn spend a great deal of time
creating and living in various ‘comic personas’ – that is, they create
and inhabit characters who in turn create entertainment for an audience.
What is interesting is that as a comedian or actor enters into a new
persona, everything else changes too, from the way they hold their body
to the sound of their voice to the actual thoughts in their head and
words they use to express themselves.
Our
sense of identity encompasses a vast constellation of beliefs and values
about the world, and is a powerful key to unlocking transformational
change. Ask yourself "Who am I when I am engaged in (whatever you're
exploring)?"
Physically, this level corresponds to our immune and endocrine systems -
the deep, life sustaining functions of the bodymind.
6.
Spirit
In
the wonderful series of books which began with Life 101 and continued on
through the NY Times bestseller Do It – Let’s Get Off Our Buts, authors
Peter McWilliams and John Roger dealt with the whole area of Spirit by
placing it in a place they called ‘the gap’ – that is, the gap between
what is observable by anyone and that which is believed by some but not
others.
For
me, Spirit is my connection to a higher power – my sense of being a
smaller part of a greater whole. For you, it may be your sense of
mission or higher purpose, or your connection to God, or however it is
you connect to that which is beyond your scope as an individual.
Physiologically, it corresponds to a holistic or holographic view of the
nervous system - how our nervous system as a whole interacts with other
nervous systems.
I
have seen this area referred to as ‘Connectedness’, ‘God’, Spirit, the
Bigger Picture, the Ultimate Perspective, or more simply “Beyond".
Choose the language that works best for you and ask yourself "Who or
what else is involved in (whatever you're exploring)? How does it fit in
with the big picture of my life? How does it fit in with the big picture
of life on earth?"
Part
Two: The Experiment
Hopefully, just going though that model for the first time you were able
to receive some useful insights or perspective into whatever it is you
chose to explore. However, this is just scratching the surface of what
is possible. While I find this model extremely useful for
self-exploration, there is an application of it that is the single most
transformational technique I use in my trainings, coaching practice, and
personal life.
The
first time I ever experienced the unfortunately named “Neuro-Logical
Level Alignmment” (also known as 'The Sacred Journey Process") was in
Hawaii in 1990. Tony Robbins, then a relatively minor personal
development superstar, guided a woman through it on stage in front of
1000 or so of us NLP wannabes. In essence, he marked out six spaces on
the floor in front of her, each one corresponding to one of the Neuro-logical
levels, and asked her to step into each space and explore her life from
the perspective of that level.
As
she walked up through environment, behavior, capabilities, beliefs,
values, and identity, her body language changed from that of a meek,
helpless girl to that of a confident y^oung woman. She told us about her
life and the various things in it that kept her from doing what she
really wanted to do – in particular, a job that was unfulfilling but
paid well and offered a level of security that was important for her and
her y^oung children.
When
she stepped into the space of Spirit, she became very quiet and very
still. After a few minutes, she turned and made her way back down
through the levels, and I watched her transformation continue. When she
reached the space of behavior, she decided to quit her job and take on
the process of honoring her heart's true calling. By the time she
returned to the space of her environment, the confident y^oung woman had
completed her transformation and become a warrior.
All
of us looked on in amazement at the scope of what had seemed to take
place so quickly and effortlessly, wondering what the heck had just
happened.
My
own most memorable experience of using this technique came nearly ten
years later on an NLP training I delivered in the living room of my
brother in-law Steve. It has long been my practice to treat myself to at
least one exercise on every training I deliver – that is, to allow
myself to remove my ‘expert’ hat and become a full participant, taking
my focus off others and bringing it firmly onto myself. In this case, I
chose to do the Neuro-logical Level alignment, the last exercise of a
two day segment of the course.
As
you can focus on any area of your life you would like to gain insight
into, I decided to explore my acting career. I had recently come out of
a casting where the producer looked up from my resume and said ‘Wow – if
you keep working at this rate you’re going to be the next Ed Bishop!’ It
was meant as a compliment, but as I had no idea who Ed Bishop was, I was
horrified that she might be right.
(I
subsequently met Ed on a radio job and recognized him as ‘the American
guy’ in nearly every British television show made since the late 1960’s
– perhaps most famously starring as Ed Straker in the TV series “UFO”.
He’s a very nice guy, talented, and I hope he continues to do very well
in his career. But it was not the height of my ambition, and it was
readily apparent to me that I needed to re-evaluate my career path.)
Taking my time, I worked my way up through the six levels, exploring the
where, what, how, why, who, and what else made up my experience of my
career. On the way back down, integrating my sense of higher purpose
into my identity, beliefs, values, capabilities, skills, and behaviors,
I experienced a sense of profound peace I often notice when doing this
exercise. But it was when I got back to the space of environment that
the real surprise was waiting for me.
When
my brother in-law asked me to notice if there was anything different
about my environment, I was shocked to realize that there was a
fundamental difference – I was no longer in London, but in Hollywood!
Nine
months later, based almost entirely on the insights gleaned from the
experience, we had sold our house, packed the family onto an airplane,
and made our way across the Atlantic to a new life and a new adventure.
In
the experiment below, I will guide you through the creation of a space
where you can do the same exercise for yourself. The usual cautions
apply - while this is a fairly robust exercise, it is not a good idea to
use it to explore anything traumatic or therapeutic in nature, and
regardless of the quality of insights you receive as you go through it,
you're still responsible for any changes you may or may not make in your
life as a result!
I
recommend blocking out at least ten minutes to do this exercise for the
first time, and if possible, doing it with a partner who can guide you
through it. My experience of doing this with over 1000 people over the
past 14 years is that taking out a bit of extra time and space reaps
huge dividends…
1.
Choose an area of your life you would like to explore, knowing that you
will at the least experience some new insight into it and at best
transform your experience of it.
2.
Stand somewhere with at least six feet of empty space in front of you.
Some people like to write out the names of each category on pieces of
paper and lay them out on the floor like a series of stepping stones
(particularly useful if you are doing the exercise on your own or for
the first time).
3.
Step into the first space marked ‘Environment’. Answer the following q^uestions
(and any others that seem relevant):
·
Where are you when you engage in this area of your life?
·
What do you see and hear?
· Who
else is there with you?
4.
Step into the second space, marked ‘Behavior’. Answer the following q^uestions
(and any others that seem relevant):
·
What do you do when you engage in this area of your life?
·
What activities do you engage in?
· If
someone was watching you on a video, what would they see you do? What
would they hear you say?
5.
Now, step into the third space, marked ‘Capabilities'. Answer the
following q^uestions (and any others that seem relevant):
·
What capabilities do you tap into in this area of your life?
·
What skills do you put into practice?
·
What areas of expertise do you draw on?
6.
Next, step into the space marked ‘Beliefs and Values’. Answer the
following q^uestions (and any others that seem relevant):
·
What’s important about this area of your life? Why does it matter?
What’s most important about it?
·
What’s true about this area of your life? What would be the most
important thing for someone you love to know about it?
·
Complete the following sentences:
“The
reality of (whatever you're exploring) is…”
“The
most important thing about (whatever you're exploring) is…”
7.
Take a step forward into the space marked ‘Identity’. Answer the
following q^uestions (and any others that seem relevant):
· Who
are you in this area of your life?
· Who
are you when you do the things you do?
· Who
are you at your best in this area of your life?
· Who
are you at your worst in this area of your life?
8.
Finally, take a step into the space of Spirit. Close your eyes and take
as long as you like to connect with the best and highest thing you can
imagine – that which is beyond anything you have been exploring, whether
you think of that as God, your highest self, connection with others, or
how it all connects with the big picture of your life.
9.
When you’re ready, turn and face back down the way you came. Carrying
that sense of the beyond with you, step into the space marked
‘Identity.’ Once again, ask and answer the q^uestion ‘Who are you?’ in
this area of your life.
10.
Bringing your sense of connectedness to Spirit and your new or
heightened sense of identity with you, step into the space of ‘beliefs
and values’. What’s true about this area of your life? What’s important
about it? Why does it matter?
11.
Carrying your connection to Spirit, your identity, and an awareness of
your beliefs and values with you, step back into the space of your
capabilities and skills. What new or additional capabilities and skills
are you aware of that you draw on (or could draw on) in this area of
your life?
12.
Still steeped in your connection with Spirit, identity, beliefs, values,
and capabilities, what do you do or could you do in this area of your
life? How have they changed? How have they stayed the same? What new
things occur to you?
13.
Finally, take everything you have learned and experienced along the way
back into the space of environment. Where are you? Where else? What do
you see? What do you h^ere? Who else is there with you? Who is no longer
there?
Take
all the time you need to allow all the learnings and changes you have
made to integrate fully before you resume your normal activities. You
may like to take notes of what you learned and experienced, and you may
find the changes and insights continue to come for hours and sometimes
days afterward.
Frequently Asked Questions:
Do I
have to actually get up and walk or can I do it on my mind (or on
paper)?
In my
experience, the effectiveness of this exercise increases exponentially
when you actually walk the levels – by engaging your body and not just
your mind, the experience becomes far more profound and the insights it
produces reach far deeper. If you do decide to do it on paper, focus on
the first part of the exercise – going up the metaphorical ladder.
Does
all this have anything to do with Gregory Bateson and his model of
Logical levels?
OK,
so in fairness this isn't a frequently asked question, but it should be,
and the answer is 'nowhere near as much as Robert Dilts and the rest of
the NLP community would like us to believe'. Any systemic thinker
familiar with Bateson's work would throw out this model as arbitrary and
based on what Bateson himself would call 'shoddy epistemology'. Having
said all that, the technique still works a treat!
What
if my life doesn’t change?
I
have a tendency to ‘oversell’ this technique because I have so many
personal reference experiences of it making a profound difference with
myself and my clients. If your experience is not terribly profound, I
have three recommendations. First, repeat the exercise later, if
possible with a guide (or on your own if you had a guide the first
time). Sometimes an inability to concentrate, distractions, or
embarrassment can play a role. Second, look for the specificity of what
it is you were exploring. Specific and personalized contexts like ‘My
relationship with Bob’ or ‘My Career’, seem to work better than abstract
ideas like ‘The state of the world today’, or ‘Poetry’.
Finally, recognize that your insights don’t have to be ‘profound’ to be
valuable to you. There is an old Peanuts cartoon where Charlie Brown,
Linus and Lucy are lying on the pitcher's mound, looking up at the sky.
Lucy says, "If you use your imagination, you can see lots of things in
cloud formations. What do you see, Linus?"
"Well," Linus replies, "that cloud there reminds me of the ancient tomb
of Nebuchenezzer, and the smaller cloud to the left is reminiscent of
God giving life to Adam as portrayed by Michelangelo on the ceiling of
the Sistine Chapel."
Lucy
then says "Mmmm, that's very interesting Linus. What do you see, Charlie
Brown?" to which Charlie replies, "Well.... I was going to say I saw a
ducky and a horsy, but I've changed my mind."
Have
fun, learn heaps, and happy exploring!
Until
next time,
michael
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